My LOVE/HATE Relationship w/the Military

I've known since my husband left that he was going to get a break in his deployment where I could "possibly" see him. Emphasis on the "possibly" because we all know how the military can minute they decide this and the next thing you know it's not even an option. With work, school, and the price of tickets for me to fly overseas and meet him in a foreign country was less than appealing to me, but I would do just about anything to see him even for a day. A few weeks ago he told me he was going to come home for a week, so here I get all excited, plan to take time off work, and count down the days to when I think he will be home. Today he tells me he's not coming home and I will have to wait many more months until he gets to come back to the states. I rarely get my hopes up on anything like this because I always get let down and disappointed. I found myself devastated when he told me nobody was allowed to come stateside...except the Officers. Now that really got me ticked off! They expect everyone to follow the policies set forth, but the Officers are the heck does that add up? Riddle me that!!

I could care less what the military decides to do, but when they tell those serving they have leave and can do whatever they want, but regulate whether they can return home to see loved ones just isn't cool. My husband has missed so much already, but nothing will compare to missing our wedding anniversary. I can celebrate my birthday, holidays, and special occasions with my family, but our wedding anniversary is what I want to share most with my husband.

We have a small group of friends, mostly because many don't understand the life of the military and the many demands that come with it. It's not something that can easily be explained, and the time it takes to explain it is just exhausting. I've found comfort in blogging and connecting with so many other military wives and girlfriends, and the funniest thing about it all is I've never even met, let alone "talk" to any of them (except one :)). I feel so very thankful to have such a great group of blog thank you, especially my dedicated followers (you know who you are)! :)

I hope everyone had a great Wednesday...the week is half over! :)


  1. I'm sorry that happened. Not all officers are bad. My husband volunteered to take leave last, so all of his soldiers could go home when they wanted.

    1. The thing that gets me is that the officers are the ones enforcing the rule. I just don't get it. Oh well :)

  2. I'm sorry your husband doesn't get to come home for a while and that he has to miss your wedding anniversary. I hope you get to see each other soon! And your wedding photos are BEAUTIFUL!

  3. I'm so sorry girl, I can't believe they would even do that ra yall. Hang I there it will be over before you know it!!!!!! PS: anniversary's along suck i'll be thinking abt you!!!!

  4. That is horrible girl, I am so sorry.
    I love your wedding dress.
    I'm happy to hear blogging is an outlet for you, I love to follow your story.
    You're in my prayers!

  5. Oh Kym, I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how frustrated you are. I went through the same thing last year…I planned to go see Joe in Busan when they were in port and one minute they are going the next they aren't. It makes it so much worse on us. I'm so sorry you are going through this. The military can be so frustrating at times. I always get so frustrated too b/c who do you get mad at? "The Military" is just this anonymous creature that I curse at at times. I want to get mad at Joe but its not his fault. I want to get mad at the command but they are just doing what they have been asked too. I always just got, "it is what it is" and its so true. Frustrating as hell, but true. Hang in there. We are all here for you if you need to vent! The shoe will be on the other foot someday and it will be me asking for support from you! lol.

    You are in my prayers girl. Be strong. Not just anyone can be a military wife. You are one because you can handle it and because you know that even in the toughest of times it is all worth it.